Resilience

Resilience is all about getting back up and carrying on even when life is hard. It is about being able to get through the tough times. When obstacles get in your way it can be about having the flexibility to work around them.

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I thought the moment where Princess Anna in Frozen 2 gets up and moves forward to do the next right thing shows what we mean by resilience in the face of a setback. I won’t tell you what the setback was I don’t want to spoil the film if you haven’t seen it. You can check out the song I am on about here…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w6g1yQV0dIY

Sometimes we try to avoid change, but it is always there. Life is always changing even when we may not want it to. Resilience can help us cope with this. But how do we become more resilient?

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Resilience is something we learn, and we can become more resilient. It is important to remember that being resilient does not mean you do not experience negative emotions or difficulties. Saying ‘I don’t care’ or ‘it’s fine, it doesn’t matter’ when something has caused us pain is not resilience but avoidance.

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Try this: Accept that things change. We can’t stop things happening to us and we can’t control other people. Mindfulness is great for learning acceptance and you can try to become more mindful through daily practice. Keep scrolling down to the mindfulness posts from January 2019 if you want to learn more about it.

 

Many things can help us feel more resilient. One is other people, our positive relationships. We have spoken about the importance of social connection before as many aspects of wellbeing build up to help us feel more resilient. You can scroll down to find out more about positive relationships too. Who can you talk to? Who can you share your worries, problems and feelings with? Having a strong support network can help with resilience as we have people to turn to in times of need.

 

Try this: Write down all the people who you can talk to about your problems or the things that worry you. If there are not many people on this list look at how you can increase this. Try finding a social club to join, or a group of people with a shared hobby for example. There are also many helplines, charities and professionals out there who can be added to any list of people to talk to. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from people when you need it.

Resilience as all parts of living a full and well life take practise. We need to build our mental health skills just like we build our physical fitness with exercise.

What we practise grows stronger as we grow and change as people.

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