How great does it feel when you finally achieve a goal? Something you have wanted to achieve for ages. Have worked hard towards. I know I feel AMAZING.
Quite often though, I will admit, my goals have fallen by the wayside. Left in a pile of other uncompleted tasks and things that I just don’t feel motivated to complete. How many of you have a New years resolution in this pile? One of my resolutions was to eat less sugar. As I am currently eating chocolate while writing this, we can assume that is in the pile too!
Why do some goals never seem to get going? Well for me with the less sugar example… I didn’t really want to. I love chocolate. I want to eat it so therefore there is no motivation to not eat it. If you have made a goal because you think you should or because someone else tells you you should, it doesn’t always align with your values.
Try this: What do you really, really want? Really. Totally honest, up front without the little voices in your head telling you to stop being silly. That right there is a true goal, that means something to you. It matters. If it matters, you are going to stick to it for longer. Write down the things you truly want and turn these into goals.
Sometimes goals don’t fall by the wayside because we don’t really want them. Sometimes we get lost on the way to achieving them. Things get in the way. Life takes an unexpected turn and the goal takes a backseat and can get left there. There is nothing wrong with this. Life happens and we sometimes have to put other things ahead of what we truly want for short time periods. The problem is when they get left in the backseat and become and little nagging concern that we can’t shift. Its always good to revisit these lost goals. Re-evaluate them. Do you still want it? If not, then get rid. If you do still want it, then read on.
Try this: Break goals down into smaller more manageable steps. If I set a goal to be able to Olympic weightlift, I wouldn’t just turn up and expect to start chucking heavy weights above my head without issue. I would need to break the goal down into steps. Starting with smaller weights and moving up as I gained strength. All goals are the same. Break it down into steps that give you little moments of achievement along the way.
As always, remember that wellbeing takes practise. Take time to reflect on how far you have come and where you want to go at varying points throughout the year not just in January. If you want help with this we have an hour long workshop taking place in Biggleswade on Wednesday 29th January or you can seek help via 1:1 sessions in person or on skype.