I thought self-love was hard, and I was right. BUT, before you even go there you need to accept yourself. Many of the ‘self’s’ such as self-love, worth and esteem are related to each other but each a little different. Acceptance (and awareness) is really the start, the first brick giving you a base to build the rest.
Accepting the great parts of ourselves is easy.
Oh wow, you are so funny, healthy, intelligent, kind…..any of those things people have said to you that become a positive story in your mind. Easy to accept. Well most of the time.
Sometimes these things can be difficult to accept too and if you want help with that you can get in touch for a free call to see how coaching and positive psychology interventions may help. Send your availability through this contact form and I will get back to you.
What about these things… Oh wow, you are so stubborn, grumpy, jealous, naughty, emotional….
These things are harder to accept.
Now sometimes of course people may have said these things to you to be mean.
However, sometimes, if we are honest with ourselves, we have maybe been these things. I am stubborn. There I admit it. Finally, after 37 years.
Once I accepted this trait, I found it much easier to recognise, cope with and change. I also found it easier to know when someone was being mean and saying something to me that was not part of my reality. I am more aware of this now as I am more accepting of who I am and more aware of who I am.
Why is it important we accept ourselves unconditionally?
We are a work in progress, all of us. Humans change and grow throughout life. Your sense of who you are is therefore always changing. As you age, face different life events, find new meaning, purpose and values, your ‘self’ will change. THIS IS ABSOLUTELY FINE.
The key thing to remember is: Unless you accept who you are it is very difficult to make the changes you may want to make to improve your life.
Try this: Have a go at writing down all the positive things that you can accept about yourself right now. Enjoy these things about yourself and celebrate them.
Then to start the journey of self-acceptance and self-love head over to our online workshop. Self-discovery is waiting for you.