There are a lot of statistics around with regards to our children and their mental health. I am a proud supporter of MQ: Transforming mental health with 10% of all my sales going straight to them and the work they do. Here are some of the statistics they have gathered…. read full article here
- 3 children in an average class of 30 have a diagnosable mental health condition.
- 50% of mental health conditions in adult life have started before the age of 15.
- 55% of young people believe they would lose their friends if they were diagnosed with a mental illness.
As a parent myself I worry about the pressure that seems to be placed on our young people from various sources and how this will affect their mental health and their overall wellbeing. As well as this I am concerned for my own wellbeing in trying to be a single parent in a modern society where expectations seem so high. As Bunmi Laditan puts it, the expectation seems to be to ‘Make sure our children’s academic, emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual, physical, nutritional and social needs are met while being careful not to overstimulate, understimulate, improperly medicate, helicopter, or neglect them in a screen-free, processed foods-free…’ read full post here
I am also concerned that my children learn to deal with life’s ups and downs. I can’t protect them from ever being hurt and this would also not be good for them. As detailed in the excellent book ‘The Upside of your Dark Side’ by Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener (2014), ‘helicopter parenting’ where we swoop in to help at every possible opportunity to protect our children is meaning they are ill prepared for challenges faced in later life. It is natural to want to protect but sometimes we must leave our children to learn. Challenges do sometimes come with hardship and this is not necessarily bad for us.
If letting your children move out independently in the world to solve their own problems makes you very nervous then this may make you more comfortable. Past and ongoing research in resilience has shown it is possible to teach people skills which develop resilience although this is still very much an ongoing area of study. Resilience can be a protective factor in our psychological functioning and therefore can be feasible as a preventative measure.
So, what skills can help make us more resilient?
- Our Optimism – This is our expectation for things to turn out well even if there are challenges in front of us. We can build optimism as a character strength. Try creating a new goal to work towards and keep a record of how you overcome obstacles to achieve that goal. Be flexible and change your path to your goal when needed.
- Relationships – Strong connections with supportive others. We need each other. Who can you go and speak to and share problems with?
- Self-care – If we look after ourselves with physical activity it can help us combat stress and give us more confidence and coping strategies.
Chill your beans run fun, active six-week courses for children to improve their emotional awareness, confidence and wellbeing. It includes mindfulness, relaxation and creative approaches to their self-worth.
Wednesday 31st October 4pm-4.30pm for reception to year 4 children and 4.45pm-5.15pm for year 5 to 8 children.
Do you have a young person in your life age 13 years and over? Bring them along with yourself to the adult course starting November 12th 7.30-8.30pm. Let the family start their wellbeing journey together.
If you want more information, then please contact me firstname.lastname@example.org
Much love Cat x